Getting into Adult Work:

It is much harder for males to break into the industry.  There are several different options for entry into the biz.

• First: find a girl who will work with you on shoots, who you can pitch to employers with you (something like, "I am looking for shoots, I can provide a female partner or can work with your current roster" in better wording)

• Second: prove yourself to a couple girls who already have the contacts and can vouch for your performance to producers (this is not done by saying that you are good!  This is done by showing up to a shoot, staying hard, performing under high stress conditions, giving a pop shot at the end without a hassle, being comfortable to work with and most importantly: respect that it is a job and many of the girls have romantic relationships outside of work)

• Third: become part of a company's or several companies stable of males, so that you can keep working continuously with them and build up your reputation and resume

• Fourth: start your own site, where you run the show, so there is no one to hire you, you hire yourself and choose all the sexy ladies you want to hire for you.  This option is fairly expensive and is the least likely to succeed, though many have done very well this way.

• Also, whichever of these you decide, there is also lots of options if you are comfortable working solo or with males. Both usually end up on gay sites, but you do not need to be gay, just able to fake it. The solo route is always a good option for males, because it gets you more camera time and practice, plus it is easier money. Who cares that men will be looking at it, all you got to do is jack off and get paid. Sometimes talking dirty is required, even sometimes with gay undertones, but so what. The gay thing is amazing for males if you are comfortable with it and can make it work (pop shot). The money is crazy high for that.

How should I prepare myself & What should I expect?

The only things you need to be concerned about are you appearance and you ability on camera.  Appearance is taking care of by grooming and exercise, that part is a no brainier, so I won't get into it. Ability is the hard part.  Generally, the rule is that you are not suppose to masturbate or have sex for 24 hrs before shooting, so that your cum is thicker and more white, less on the clear side.  This all depends on your body though.  If you cum really fast, then perhaps jerking off isn't such a bad idea, so that you can last a decent amount for the camera.  That  being said, most males don't have a problem cumming too soon, but actually have a problem getting hard, staying hard and reaching orgasm. 

You should expect that there will be strangers in the room (lighting, cameraman, makeup, whoever).  Also, the woman you work with will possibly be a stranger as well, though most adult models are down to earth  (notice I say most hehe).  Also, everyone is there for money and to do a job.  So there is no feelings and they may not even find you attractive or you may not find them attractive.  You still must make your body work.  That is really the hardest part for the male, since the rest of the time the camera doesn't focus too much on what you do, but rather the woman.

Love Relationships in the Industry:

That is a really hard one to answer!  It is a matter of luck or sheer will that your partner will understand your career choice.  Few who do not work in this business understand the lack of emotion involved.  Many people end up dating other people who work in the industry or bring their partner in it with them.  Some people get lucky (in my case, yes I thank God often) and end up with a partner who does not touch the industry but can support and accept it.  DO NOT expect that you will find this often, if you find it, hold on tight!  The approach you take really depends on your personality and the person you are dating.  I have no advice on to how to tell them.  Some people tell the person from the get go, other never tell them.  The biggest thing is just making the person understand the lack of emotion involved and how little is actually sex, as opposed to just sticking yourself into a hole, which happens to be attached to a body.  Since anyone who has ever worked under someone else's direction knows: just when it starts to feel good, you're told to change positions. LOL!

Most Important Things to Remember:

It is a job, not your sex or social life.  This is not a path to choose if you are just looking to get laid or meet chicks.  Try to be as down to earth as possible, being not clingy is great as well.  If you are uncomfortable to work with or creep girls out, you will never be called  back.  The males are the lowest of the totem poll, and the girl's say will be much higher respected.  That being said, the male's job is much harder than the female's - girls can fake, guys cannot, so be prepared to perform under pressure!  The truth is, most men will never make a lot of money doing adult work and just do it for the bragging rights and the experience.  Men are a dime a dozen, so do not expect to make big cash...unles you become famous because you are amazingly easy to work with and happen to get noticed by the right person while you are in the right place at the right time. 

That is about all that comes to find as of right now, I will probably add more later though.  Hope that gives a little helpful advice and insight.
MM

Edit to Add: Taken from Jaye Star's FAQ. 

I thought she had some good points and expanded on some stuff that I hardly touched on.  You can see more of her at http://www.myspace.com/jaystar83 & her FAQ at http://www.jaystar.web.st/faqpro/

The first thing that guys who want to get into porn should know is... you probably cant. Not to be discouraging, but that’s the truth of the matter.

It doesn’t matter how big your dick is or how handsome looking you are, your chances are slim to none.

Lets face it, porn guys get to fuck beautiful women, sometimes more than one at a time, do things that most "regular" girls wouldn’t dream of letting you do, and get paid for it!

Its every guys dream job - so for every male DOING porn, there’s hundreds... no, thousands of guys DREAMING about doing it.

But its not as glamorous as it seems. To be successful, you have to be able to get hard on your own (fluffers are a thing of the past), you have to be able to stay hard for long periods of time, pausing often for lighting changes, position changes, stills, etc. and then be able to cum within a half minute of when the director tells you to. All of this while four or five people are moving around you and the director talking to you. Most guys just cant do it...

You may be a stud at home and able to fuck all night, but its a whole different ballgame on the set of a video shoot.

Why do you think you keep seeing the same guys over and over again in almost every video? And why are lots of them are old enough to be the father of the girl they’re fucking?

Because they’ve got a proven track record for being able to perform as expected. Its a directors nightmare to have a "stud" who cant get or keep wood, cums too soon or cant cum on cue. Time is money and they don’t want to pay a crew to stand around waiting for the male talent to get his groove on!

And don’t expect sympathy from the female talent... they’re there to do a job, get paid and do another scene with another studio or get home as quickly as possible.

NOW, all that being said, there are a few ways a new male CAN possibly get into the adult industry. The best way is to have a HOT girlfriend who wants to do porn and insists that she will only work with you. That might get you a shot; but you better perform perfectly the first time, or it’ll be your last, and you’ll find yourself sitting on the sidelines watching your girlfriend screaming with pleasure while getting nailed by some stud with a monster cock.

The other way is to scour xpeeps, myspace and the various adult yahoo groups for amateur website owners, usually a husband and wife team who are swingers and have decided to videotape their lifestyle and try to make some money on it.

They’re usually always looking for new faces to appear on their website, and the pressure is much less than it is in a professional environment. Its usually just you, the woman, and her husband doing the camera work, and there’s little if any stopping and starting... they just turn the camera on, you and she do the deed start to finish, and the husband captures it all on video.

If you’re good enough and do enough of these amateur sites, you’ll have a body of work to refer to when you try to break into the "big time".

I also get lots of messages saying something like: "Dude! How can I get to fuck all those hot chicks"

My standard reply is "First, find out if you can fuck with two or three people in the same room telling you where to put your hands, where to put your feet, etc. and be able to keep your dick hard for a couple of hours with a lot of stops in between the sex to change lighting, etc. Once you’ve established that you can do that.

Buy five grand worth of video, camera and lighting equipment, drop three or four thousand on having a website built, another couple of grand on editing software, find a cameraman and videographer in your area, find a video editor, then instead of wasting your time writing us, start writing the hundreds of porn stars on xpeeps and on myspace and ask them to work for you".

So that’s about it guys... sorry to burst some bubbles, but that’s the low-down on guys getting into the porn biz